Saturday, September 26, 2009

Knowing When to Walk Away


Current Mood: Feeling claustrophobic. Must get out of here soon.

Current Song: Strawberry Swing by Coldplay

Dear people. I feel like I have to blog this out. It's an idea that has been brewing in my head for some days now and I just felt like writing it out. This is my attempt at personalizing this blog a bit more (don't worry, no sob stories). I think one of the biggest things that I've struggled with in my life is knowing when to walk away from a situation.

I've grown up with my environment constantly changing around me (more so, than most people). In that environment, attachment is hard to come by. You hang on for dear life to anything and anyone that will stay with you. Oft, there are no guarantees. As I grew up in Canada - thankfully, a much steadier environment now - I've had to contend with the fact that sometimes I hang on to things that probably need a bit of letting go.

Being the solid, logical creature that I am, I like to weigh out my options. Someone once told me a story about an entrepreneur that only enters or exits situations if they pose a 3 to 1 ratio. He only enters business deals that offer him 3 benefits to one risk. I think it's a good way to go. I've only recently started using this strategy to figure out when I need to walk away.

It's usually even more difficult if it's something you care about. As much as I hate hokey sayings, sometimes you have to let it go, even if you love it. Sometimes it is about more respect for yourself to know what's good for you. Consider that benefit number 1.

It's an everyday kind of lesson for me and one that hopefully will keep me mobile in my life, always moving forward. For now, we continue to learn as we go, and trust the process in the meantime.

My question to you, dear readers is: How do you make strides to walk away when you have to?

Okay, out I get. Will write again soon :)

Monday, September 21, 2009

Lessons on Time we can Learn from Prufrock


Current Mood: Moving on to the next thing, post haste

Current Song: Daffodils by Malia F. Erik Truffaz

I had time this weekend to think about time. And I missed reading poetry, so I pulled out my favourite poem and read it. I'm always inspired by T.S. Eliot's "The Lovesong of J. Alfred Prufrock". I must have looked at it a thousand times over the course of many years. Here is my favourite passage.

There will be time, there will be time
To prepare a face to meet the faces that you meet;
There will be time to murder and create,
And time for all the works and days of hands
That lift and drop a question on your plate;
Time for you and time for me,
And time yet for a hundred indecisions,
And for a hundred visions and revisions,
Before the taking of a toast and tea.

I've always remember this passage and it always makes me think of the preciousness of time. This seems to be a bit of a roundabout way of saying that time is of value. Your own time and the times that others so willingly give to you. I think time is a matter of respect as much as anything.

Prufrock, poor man, is a regrettable character who fails to take action, thinking himself half fool, half dispensible (and a bit obtuse). I would only hope that the rest of us make good use of our time, be it to meet with others, to spend it working or whatever else. Time, which we don't have plenty of, contrary to popular belief is something we will always need more of. Best not to waste it.

Just a monday afternoon thought process, if you will.

Will write again soon, perhaps of more interesting things. Happy Monday!

Monday, September 14, 2009

Hey Pretty Boy! You Need a Nerdy Girl!


Current Mood: Accomplished (finally finished an article that's been hanging over my head for days!)

Current Song: Poker Face by Lady Gaga

A brief encounter with a fellow blogger and brazen careerist about the virtues of nerdy women got me to thinking about my own nerdiness. As one of many, I am dedicated this blog post to extolling the virtues of cool nerds (like me). I think everyone should date a nerd at least once in their life. Here are my reasons why you might benefit from the underrated and understated, yet oh so cool nerdy girl!

1. We are well-versed in something - It's not all style, no substance with us. Whether we're versed in the art of the PS2, have read every single classic imaginable or love the Simpsons, we have an interest other than weekend bar hops. We might have large collection of vintage tshirts or records or bottle caps! We're good at what we do too and will regale you with entertaining stories or at the very least, quote TV characters to make you laugh ("Welcome to Itchy and Scratchy Land; Where nothing could possibli go wrong. Possibly go wrong. That's the first thing that's ever gone wrong!")

2. We value relationships - In highschool, we weren't popular. We didn't have a boyfriend every other week and we certainly didn't go around the block any number of times. We've watched from afar for many years, and we think we understand it. We won't drop our lives to if you pay us a little attention (we're too secure for that now). But we will value what time we have with you, and trust me, we're pretty entertaining.

3. We are NOT boring - Most of us have a lot to say. And a lot of it is not obscure. We throw in the occasional trekkie reference, maybe, but on the whole, we're thoughtful and sincere and are down with a lively conversation or debate anytime. We're far from boring, because we enjoy all manner of different activities from Jazz festivals to Farmers Markets. Some of us are even athletic (who'da thunk it!).

4. You can take us home to mom! - When we were younger, we spent a lot of time with our families, and so we value family. You'll never have to think twice about letting us meet your mother. We're quirky, but we can tone it down. Besides our parents taught us how to respect adults and so we know to help clear the table or to talk to your mom about where she got that vase. Trust us, she'll like us!

5. We're in it for the long haul! - We don't like dating a million people at once. We find it energy zapping and kind of tedious. We won't step out on you. We know we've got a good thing going. It took us so long to find you, so we won't just cast you by the wayside.

So here it is. On behalf of all the nerdy women out there, give a nerd a chance! We're pretty awesome and make for some interesting conversation :) So go on, then!

That's it from me. I'll write again soon :) Happy monday everyone!

Tuesday, September 8, 2009

The Art of Closure


Current Mood: Back to the grind *grumble grumble*

Current Song: Butterscotch Highs by Marc Robillard

So I'm back from Vacation and this is my first day getting back to business. As you know, I've always thought of fall as a good time to start things. It goes back to my school days I think, where new classes, new books and new clothes all come around at this time. I've decided to extend the same philosophy to autumn this year, despite the fact that I'm not going back to school.

But first, a few things to take care of.

We all know that when we are trying to move on, there are some things that we need to close the door on. Whether that's a job, a relationship, some life transition, in order to progress, some things must go by the way side.

This year, I will mark the end of a rather difficult transitional period in my life. There is no particular reason why, but I think I've reached the end point. Though I say it was difficult, many good things came of it: a graduate degree, lots of great trips, friends. I don't discount these things and will carry them with me.

I realize for myself, that the trick is to listen to your gut. You'll know that something has reached its natural end, when it makes you feel differently to engage with it. You might not love your job anymore or seeing that friend just doesn't make you feel happy and refreshed afterwards. Listening to my gut is something I've learned over time. I'm generally quite intuitive, but when my head cuts in, I tend to listen more to that.

The goal this fall is to file away some of those things that will allow me to take the next steps in fulfilling my own aspirations. Hopefully this works out. I'll let you know how it goes :)

Okay, best to get on to some work. Will write again soon!

Friday, September 4, 2009

Calgary Pictorial


Current Mood: exhausted

Current Song: inteha by Jagjit Singh.

Sorry I haven't written for a while guys. I just got back from Calgary. Despite my initial apprehension to go, I had a really good time and have gained a new appreciation for trucks, and wide roads and flat land. Not to mention, the no-tax awesomeness.

Instead of going on about the trip, I thought I'd share some pictures with you folks. Enjoy!

This is the Buddha from my Aunt's kitchen (which I will one day pilfer).

Rocky Mountains on the way to Banff (I rode up front in massive truck!)

Barbecue fires with clearly too much butane or whatever they use...

My cousin's stupid sense of humour (refer to previous post about boys being gross)...

Calgary city lights by night, with no tripod and a moving car...and my shakey hands. It's a cool picture anyway.
Anyways folks, hope you enjoyed the pictorial. Will write again, and soon!