Friday, January 30, 2009

Weighing In on the Issue


Current Mood: Deaf in one ear (a problem with my ears that I've been contending with since birth. No biggie)

Current Song: February Air by Lights

So as you've probably heard, Jessica Simpson is headlining the news lately with alleged weight gain, and is under fierce criticism by people who need to find something better to do. It's bigger news than Davos has been this week. I fully recognize the irony of me writing about this, and saying that it really shouldn't be in the news. But I can't understand how we have to villify women with curves in our society still. And Jessica Simpson is hardly a woman with curves. Believe me, I know what curves means.

I think that this business of weight has gone on long enough, quite frankly. Most of you will know, I sometimes say that inside I'll always be the "fat girl". It's how I saw myself even in grade 8 when I weighed a measly 80 pounds. I'll never fully be over it because it's hard work for me to stay in shape, thanks to genetics.

My whole journey has never been an easy one, but started in 2006, when I went through my "enough of this crap" phase. After a much-needed vacation in London, which forced me to walk everywhere, including the 500 odd steps up St. Pauls Cathedral, I realized, I wanted to live to be able to do that again when I'm 70 years old. It inspired me to get in shape, so that I don't have to have a heart attack when I'm young and I don't have to break a hip when I'm older.

I think we miss the important point here, in that it's how healthy you are that really counts. At 5'2, I have a healthy BMI, I can climb a set of stairs without wanting to pass out and I exercise regularly and get my daily intake of fruits and veggies. I eat chocolate everyday and love sweets. I'm not, nor will I ever be a size small. it's unrealistic for me, frankly.

And let's not go around couching weight related terms to make them more PC. It's a load of crap. We talk a lot about healthy body weight and all of that good stuff, but if that really means trying to fit into daisy dukes, most of us are kidding ourselves. This applies to both men and women (Men, you should NEVER attempt to wear Daisy Dukes...ever!). We're all faced with unrealistic expectations from sources like the media. Shame on them. But shame on us, for trying to live up to them.

Okay, people, this has been my rant about weight for the year. I hope never to bring it up again.

I shall write in february...augh! it's coming up so soon! Talk to you all later!

Saturday, January 24, 2009

It's Hard to be Happy


Current Mood: conflicted, and a little tired

Current Song: Flux by Bloc Party
It's hard to be happy about this:

(care of

When You're still dealing with Headlines like this:

(Care of The Vancouver Sun)
This man was beat up by three off-duty policemen from the lower mainland while he was doing his job, delivering newspapers to the Hyatt Regency downtown in Vancouver. Ironically, it happened to be on the same day that Obama became president. Perhaps, unlike what we'd like to think, we haven't really come that far at all.

Monday, January 19, 2009

Music Makes the People Come Together


Current Mood: Pretty sweaty. I'm waiting to cool down from my work out before the shower or I'll end up feeling faint.

Current Song: Losing My Religion by REM (Thanks KK for correcting!)

I have nineties music stuck in my head these days. Like Return of the Mack. How dumb was that song. It seems to be haunting me as of late. Possibly it's because there is that hour between 5 and 6 in the morning when I can't sleep. It has become terribly annoying.

I was trying to think about what I could possibly blog about lately. I've been busy working on some things and haven't really had a chance to ponder. So I thought that I would write about an article I read in the economist about why we care about music. As most of you know, I sing. I've trained for many years (only stopping training the last 2) and sing mostly chorally. Music has always been a large part of my life and indeed every life event that is major seems somehow linked to a song (I think my life probably has background music).

The basic premise behind the article is that Music tends to have some sort of evolutionary use. Not everyone can sing (trust me!). In evolutionary terms, animals have put effort into activities that have yielded a greater chance of genetic proliferation. This would mean, that music, because it is still a trait that is present in contemporary society, increases our chances of having children. It's also why musicians have so many children. and groupies. Currently, given that music actually requires practice, musicians view it as an activity worth doing. Mind you now it's tied in with fame and all kinds of other fun things like that.

I think the article might have some weight to it. But I don't understand why I'm still single :P
No, no, that's my own (un)doing.

There's something in music that appeals to the emotional centres in people's brains: from major keys that connote happiness to the phenomenon of "our song" that lovers so often profess, music is inevitably an evolutionary phenomenon. Interesting thoughts, nah?

Alright folks, better go and get on with it. Happy Obama Week! I hope you all tune into the inauguration tomorrow (tuesday) morning. This shall definitely be an interesting quatrennial :)
Ciao for Niao!

Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Got Too Much Time? Watch Korean Family Dramas!


Current Mood: Alert...and restrategizing

Current Song: I'm Yours by Jason Mraz (Who I don't particularly love. I'm over the whole "banana pancakes" boardshort-clad genre of music).

I have yet another confession. I've been watching a Korean drama every night. I don't understand Korean at all (well, except for how to say mom and dad and yes). The show is called "Mom's Dead Upset" and it's about a Korean family that is dealing with the marriage of their 3 children. The oldest is a successful lawyer who wants to marry a divorcee with a child (not good). The youngest daughter marries into a different class of people (also not good) and the only son in the family ends up marrying a woman who is much older than him and who got pregnant out of wedlock. You can read about the show here. It is possibly the most interesting show. It draws a lot of parallels to our lives and to our community and especially facing issues when it comes to love.

I think I most relate to the older daughter. Not that I've ever fallen in love with a man who has a child from a former marriage. Wasn't that bad. She's a strong-headed woman though, which is both a good thing and a bad thing I suppose. Ever the pragmatist, I find it hard to substantiate things like love.

Today I was watching some telly while I was working out and there was a whole thing on prenuptials. And I guess the question that popped into my head is, whether it's too pessimistic to entertain the notion that a marriage might end in divorce. Are you setting yourself up? I know it's too unromantic of course. We'd all like to eat all the chocolate we can and never gain a pound, and also have all our relationships work out for the best. But truth is, it doesn't happen.

Perhaps it's that to-a-fault pragmatism. But I'd rather be pleasantly surprised that it did work out. It's always nice to be surprised than disappointed. It's one of the reasons that i like the oldest daughter in this Korean drama. I think she is going into the relationship with this man with the full knowledge of its consequences. I can appreciate that. I can also appreciate that she's a bit older and doesn't have time to play stupid childish games. Perhaps that's trick. The older you are, the less inclined you are to act stupidly on a regular basis. Might as well go for what you want.
I realise I haven't put up a picture in a little while, so here is one. It was a christmas shot, and I was trying to play around with angles and light. I think I might be getting the hang of this stuff. it's supposed to be a promisingly sunny weekend and I might go to the park for a walk I think. Will keep you posted of course. Until then, Ciao!

Friday, January 9, 2009

Lesson 1 for 2009: Get On With It!


Current Mood: As you can probably tell, I'm still in the ass-kicking rampage kind of mood.

Current Song: Lovers in Japan by Coldplay

So 2009 has started off more with a whimper than a bang. For some reason, I've been playing psychologist to a lot of people over the last week. I should get my own show and an assistant. But over all I think I've come to one conclusion: People, you just need to get on with your lives!

My philosophy as of the last few years is: if you don't like it, change it. If you can't change it, change the way you think about it. We're all going to make mistakes in life, and we're all going to fall down and go through crappy moments. The point is to pick yourself up, suck it up and get on with it. We are afterall, largely in charge of our own lives. Most of us dwell on things that happened and how wounded we are by this, that and the other. You're going to stay scabby and wounded for as long as you let yourself be.

Some of you probably know (or maybe not), that I've had a few really tough moments in my life. Not just a few years ago, I felt my world was falling to pieces. Then one day (thanks to how I've been raised), I got up and said, enough of this garbage. We're going to move on today. I think a lot of people underestimate this ability in themselves.

Penelope Trunk over at Brazen Careerist has 5 time management tips that I think are very handy in terms of getting on with it. Time is a valuable resource as we've heard before. So stop wasting your time, and get to work!

Many a life lesson to come in the future! I would like to hear about your progress :)
Ciao for niao!

PS: I do really care even if I've got a rather rough way of saying so. I think you're valuable and that's why I want the best for you. I do encourage to power through. It's a great way of getting things done and feeling good about yourself!

Wednesday, January 7, 2009

The Big Melt(down)


Current Mood: Bleh
Current Song: No One by Alicia Keys

I think I'm having a personal crisis at the moment. Christmas is over, and the family is not around anymore. I'm sick of looking for work too. Lord help me. I'm just about ready to tell people "Gimme". But I don't think that's the way to do it. Something will click somewhere I hope. It's a bit blah at the moment. Gotta start paying my dues at some point soon.

Other than that, we're done with the snow over here. Now it's been pouring rain for about 2 days. I can't say I'm complaining terribly because it's been really hard getting around the city with all of this craziness. I was about ready to crack because it really done limit your mobility and taking the bus is a real pain when it's cold outside. On the bright side, I've never had better arm muscles than I do now! I also said that I would personally see to the destruction of anyone who ever complains about rain or wishes for a white christmas. Honestly, be careful what you wish for because you just might get it (Thank you Pussycat Dolls for that nugget of wisdom).

In other news, apparently I'm living up to my powerbitch status. I'm the new Doctor Phil, telling it like it is all over the place. Well, what? Some people could use a reality check once in a while. It's the new year. It's a good time to be telling people off to set them straight. And I'm not mean about it. I just happen not to sugar coat things for people. It's not a good way to go. Especially for people who have yes people around them. Frankly I should really go on an ass-kicking rampage across the land. It might do people some good. In some ways I'm glad I didn't become a psychologist, and in some ways I rather regret it. But there are enough problems in the world to keep me busy!

Anyway dears, I'm off for a little bit. Going to jump through puddles and ice. Will write again soon. In the meanwhile, enjoy this picture of the arctic tundra known as the back yard. See you soon!

Friday, January 2, 2009

Some Things Never Change


Current Mood: Barely awake (I'm having some major insomnia related issues lately)
Current Song: Here with Me by Dido

Joyeuse Nouvelle Annee! I hope 2009 brings you all (or both) much success, joy, and luck. It's a new start people. Time to make some changes and get on with it. I'm happy that 2008 is over. It was a weird year. I either have years that are so mellow that nothing exciting happens all year long, or that are so up and down, you'd think I was schizophrenic. I think 2008 was a bit of the latter. I'm hoping this year is somewhat more consistent or at least is progressing upward as much as possible.

As you probably know by now, I think a lot about change. Afterall, it was the Number 1 Buzzword of 2008. Aside from its political connotations, it's one of those things that is constant and that you have to think about. As much as I love change, I notice some things about me are fundamental to remain the same. I think in some way you have to honour the past in order to respect yourself in the future. Here are a couple of ways that I remain the same.

1. Yesterday, amidst the boredom of the stat holiday, I came across Musselman Presents The Music of Seal on Ice. As you know, I'm a massive massive fan of seal. He performed live and it was just divine. I've loved him since I discovered him singing Kiss from a Rose on Batman Forever and I haven't been able to let go since. In fact, he actually sang "Kiss from a Rose" , "Crazy" and "Don't Cry". It's amazing how pieces of your life can be inextricably tied to music. I also heard Fix You by Coldplay (It gets less painful every year :) )

2. I'm still in love with Aamir Khan. Don't ask me why. I just am. Okay, time for a confession. When I was about 6 years old or so, I saw him in a lovestory type of movie. It was a very Romeo and Juliet thing, minus the wussing out over poison. I fell unapologetically in love with him. And I haven't come out of it since. I still swoon. That's right. I still do, even though it's no longer 1987 anymore. A girl's first love is always her first love. And for your pleasure, and mine, a picture of him. The heart still flutters :) (And yes, those are his real eyes. I know I always say I'm a sucker for blue eyes, but I'll settle for his any time!)

Okay, enough of this swooning in the new year. I better get going. I'm going for a haircut so I can resume looking half human at least. fingers crossed the snowing stops soon. I miss the rain and running. Alright kids, we shall meet soon! ciao!